To the Concerned One

Question was...
hi. i found your blog through a friends blog. and first i want you to know that i really appreciate what you are doing. i hope you can answer this. it is pretty complicated. i am in love with my boyfriend. and i dont know if you are a religious person at all, but he revealed to me last week a lot of his past. we were planning on getting married in june. but he told me a lot of things like he isn't a virgin anymore, he did drugs, and he comes from an abusive family. everything seems to be falling apart. i am trying my hardest to not be judgmental, and i don't think i am. my love for him has not changed one bit. but do i continue loving him and plan on marrying him forever? Or what do i do? it's harder to handle than ic an tell you. and sorry if posted this in the wrong area. i looked for an email but couldnt find one.
thanks again,
concerned.
My Thoughts....
Well first off I want to start out by saying I appreciate what you said about what I am trying to do! I just hope I can help! Now to your question, love is HARD to find and once you have it I think you you need to be really careful about what you do with it.  If finding out all of these things about his past is a deal breaker for you then you have to figure out how to walk away because in the long run you don't want to settle for less than you deserve.  For me when I get married it will be for eternity! Now you also have to remember that people make mistakes, no one is perfect and we all have a past that we may or may not be PROUD of.  Him telling you all of these things shows that he trusts you enough to share his deepest secrets and wants to share his entire life with you! That is something that can be very rare! If you still love him as much as you did before DON"T take that love for grantid! You never know when the day will come that you may not have it anymore and you don't want to be living with regrets.  Trust in your instincts! They know best!! :) I hope this helped at least just a little! Let me know how it goes!
Yours truely,
Truth Be Told

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Question Was...
Alright, truth be told! I’m the “concerned one.” My boyfriend and I are very serious. However, his family and my family are completely opposite. IT doesn’t seem like that big of a deal, but it really is!! It’s been rough because his family is so proper and my family is…not! We’re crazy. It’s so hard when some of my family thinks he’s “not good for me,” and some of his family thinks the same!! IT makes me SO SAD. We’ll get in fights about it and everything, and family is soo important to both of us. It causes fights, and it’s getting really frustrating considering some of his family doesn’t like me and some of my family doesn’t like him. It’s causing lots of stress ☹
Thanks for your help!!
-Concerned one
My Thoughts...
Well concerned one, How much of an influence is your family making on your relationship? If in the end you aren't going to let family determine the outcome of your relationship then there isn't any reason to stress over it.  You two know what is best for eachother more than anyone else does.  Family is extremely important but once they realize that there influence isn't going to change your opinion and if they can see that you are both really happy with eachother I honestly think that in the long run they will back off! Let your families disagreements make you closer as a couple, not tear you apart! I hope this helped!
Yours truely, Truth Be Told

Question was...
Truth Be Told,
I have been in love with my best friend for a long time now and I do not know how to tell her. I think she feels the same way but I'm scared she'll shut me down. What's a guy to do?
My Thoughts...
Just talk to her... Communication is such a big thing with someone.  Talking to her about the way you both feel mutually can clear up alot of the questions, I know that it can be really scary but if the opportunity arises for the convo to happen, TAKE IT, you deserve to know how she feels! Good luck! Let me know how it goes!! :)

Question was...
Truth Be Told,
During the last few years I have been dating this guy, now I'm almost completely sure that he is the one for me. Things have been happening lately that aren't in the same intrest as me... my boyfriend has been drinkin quite a bit and it seems to make us fight. truth be told, I dont know what to do because I want to be with him forever and I dont know how to stop this act... ?
My Thoughts...
Well you can't and won't ever be able to control what other people do but you can set an example for them... You can show him what you think is right and just hope that he will come around.  If you honestly think that he is the one than I would talk to him about these concerns that you are having... Communication really is the key to every successful relationship!!

Question was...
Truth Be Told,
On the subject of love: I'm in love with my best friend. I think about her every day and only want to be with her. but I'm afraid she doesnt feel the same. I listen to her complain about her boy problems and I know I could make her happier and treat her better than any other guy she's dated. I just dont know if she sees me in that way. what would you do in my situation, sincerely, my best friend's (and hopefully my) wedding
My Thoughts...
Loving your best friend is not something that is rare but is something that is hard to deal with... personally if I was in this situation I would try talking to her.  You never know what her feelings are until you have asked.  She could end up feeling the exact same way but she is just scared to tell you in case you didn't feel the same and it could potentially ruin the friendship.  But if you both handle the conversation on a mature level then you both should be able to get your feelings out and still maintain your friendship! If it doesn't work out then there is someone better out there for you!! Good Luck and let me know how it goes!! Everyone deserves the best and you shouldn't settle for less!!

Is there such thing as love!?

Question Was...
Truth Be Told,
I personally struggle with problems with love. I honestly dont believe it exists. every relationship I've had, there's been something lagging. no spark, nothing. I get bored. I've dated alot of great guys and its hard to believe that I just havent met the ONE yet. your thoughts?
My Thoughts...
Well for starters every single person is different in there own way so no matter who you date they will all be different.  That being said if the guys you have previously dated don't have the "WOW" factor that keeps you wanting more then he doesn't have all of the qualities you are longing for... you just need to give it time.  You will find the person that withholds everything you have ever wanted and it will be worth the wait!!